Day 1

There's a very subtle difference in how acceptance and forgiveness take place when we're doing this work. Accepting or forgiving the behavior and the harm inflicted upon you is not required! The truth is that the actions and behavior that you endured are not acceptable and do not need to be forgiven. What you do need to accept is that it's okay for you to have all of your emotions around what happened. And you absolutely must forgive yourself. You may choose to eventually forgive the individual because he has his own issues and problems and is clearly mentally unhealthy. But you do not have to forgive him, ever. Focus on self compassion and self forgiveness. You need to love yourself enough to accept that you deserve to recover and heal.