Does it have to be anger at a person?

Hi all,

The past few days I've been having some real struggles with cold sensations: hands and feet and sometimes all over.

After doing some digging, I found that I have an intense anger at the weather, as irrational as that sounds.

A couple of weeks ago, the months of constant cold weather went away and I had a few days of warm, comfortable, shorts weather. then the cold weather suddenly came back but I wasn't ready to accept it. I was frustrated that I had to put my layers of clothes on again.

Obviously, if everything else in my life was going great and I didn't harbor any other anger, resentment over something like this wouldn't bother me that much would it?

I feel anger over lack of control, of the weather and of my own life. All of this came after a series of personal and professional disappointments dealing with other people. It's all connected, right?

E.

 

I agree that it is probably all connected. The important thing, as I see it, is to examine exactly what the connection is. Regarding that, I think Sarno had some wisdom to offer in The Mindbody Prescription when he discussed some questions that patients often asked him. One of those questions was this: “I know I’m angry. I can feel it. In fact, I often show it. Why do I still have pain?” Here is part of Sarno’s answer:

"Because the anger you know about and express is not the anger causing your pain. TMS is a response to anger-rage generated in the unconscious (in which case you are not aware of it), or conscious anger suppressed. TMS is not a response to conscious anger felt or expressed. . . . Finally, anger you are aware of may be what is known as displaced anger. That is, you become overly angry at something relatively unimportant, like a traffic tie-up or poor service in a restaurant, instead of at your spouse or a parent, because the latter is simply not allowed by your psyche. This is very common among my patients.”
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Is your anger about the weather maybe displaced anger? Stated differently, is that anger maybe a Freudian defense mechanism to cover up personal relationship anger that is simply not allowed by your psyche?

 

I find when it's things like weather if I do as Jan describes and "write shit down" then the deeper truth comes out.
Usually some weird stuff from when I was little that is innocuous now but evidently was maddening to my little self.