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I recently had a CT and MRI shows bad arthritis in L4 5 a little in the hip but, no structural instability,
I believe the hip pain escalated after a summer of trying to control my emotions toward a very dysfunctional family situation and my fear of turning 60 caught up with me and TMS stepped right in and took over.
Anyone have any verbal suggestions? The one I use is it's psychological not physical and your not going to win. I'm dealing with my inner pain, send blood flow to the affected tissues along with some expletives.