Daniel L. Pelvic pain

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Question

Hi. I am a pelvic pain sufferer from last year in the summer when my wife got a bad diagnosis. Since that time I have a burning pain on my pelvis specially with sitting and after erection, urination and bowel movement. I am a taxi driver and I can't sit and drive more than 4 hours in a excruciating burning pain. I had all checks done but everything is ok so far.
I am very depressed about this and cannot find a way to live my life and care about my family.
I will be very appreciate if you can help!

 

Answer

Thank you for writing! I’m so sorry to hear about the burning pain you’re experiencing. I know that it can be very difficult to not let that take over your life.

First thing’s first: Go see a doctor. A TMS doctor (listed here on the wiki) would be ideal, but any doctor will do. You always want to rule out anything biomechanical (physical) going on before we can be confident that it is TMS. It sounds like you’ve done this to some degree, but I just had to say that to make sure.

Secondly, take a deep breath. Your message sounds understandably panicked, but I want you to slow yourself down. Before we can do anything about the pain that you’re in, we have to slow you down and reduce your anxiety. The panic you’re experiencing about your symptoms is only making them worse.

Next, I want you to start telling yourself that you’re going to be ok. You may not believe it right now, but that’s ok. Keep saying it. “I’m going to be ok.” Over and over again. Keep at it. You will reduce your anxiety and help yourself immensely just by beginning to have faith.

Lastly, I want you to go through the recovery program here on the TMS wiki. It won’t eliminate your pain by tomorrow, but it will reduce it in time. Know that. You can and will reduce your symptoms in time, just so long as you work at it. The recovery program takes some time, but time is what you need to slow yourself down and stop reacting to the symptoms.

Remember, you’re going to be ok. Now start the recovery program!

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Thanks Daniel for your encouragement ! I have my TMS specialist appointment next week !
I am actually trying to resume my activity ( driving taxi ) .

 

Awesome. Keep up the good work.

As I always say, it's going to take patience and persistence, so be kind to yourself!

 

God bless Daniel