Day 9 QtP: self critical thoughts

Have you been over critical of yourself lately?

Sometimes, yes.

How and why have you done this?

Usually to do with my coaching clients. I criticise myself for letting them down, not being % present or energetic for them, for being tired or for not delivering the right kind of session.

The why behind this is simple: there is some part of my mind that thinks it is protecting me by keeping me in criticism and fear. That it will produce better results for my clients (and subsequently for me) if I'm scared into focusing entirely on them at the expense of myself. It's like a trade off: my present well being for both their present well being and in turn my future well being... (Which will never come if I am being critical!)

'ugh why can't I just be energetic today??'

'i shouldn't have forced that question on that client. It was bad coaching.

' I never should have accepted this person as a client. What a waste of time!'

'that was a crappy session. You don't deserve to have them as a client.'

 

How about when you catch yourself doing this you just reframe the thought?
Wow - I was more energetic today!
I really made them work hard - what a good coach i am!
This person is difficult - how lucky they are to have me!
What a great session -what a lot of good I am doing!

That way you get two points of view and as a human being the reality will lie somewhere between the two!
Be kind to yourself!

 

All love for this hecate. Thank you!