TMS keeps getting me (us) because life has traumas

The problem I have (and I'm sure many of you have) is that life events generate new real traumas that then TMS piggybacks on. I can't avoid having a car accident, or kidney stones. I have successfully resolved multiple TMS flare ups, but then something new comes along for TMS brain to co-opt

this year it was a concussion. There is a lot of debate about concussions and healing, but I did hit my head hard on a concrete block. There were real problems and symptoms in the first couple weeks. There may be lingering realities now (like not sleeping soundly through the night like I used to) but four months out, my understanding of what is going on in my body has become a complicated entanglement.

I began to suspect about two months out that my physical healing wasn't progressing like the doctors said it should. but I also didnt slow down much in my second month of recovery. so of course that lays a seed of doubt that the lingering symptoms are TMS now.

I feel like I need a mentor to be a voice of reason, unraveling my thinking. I am so sick of the entanglement TMS lays on every actual physical event in my life. I recognize the similarity to what I struggled with with kidney stones, whiplash, etc, but because it's a new thing (concussion) I have to go through the same unraveling.