Modeling (new title)

Thomas Jefferson once said, "If two individuals get together
and exchange a dollar, they each walk away with one
dollar. If the same individuals get together and exchange an
idea, they both walk away with two ideas."

This was my goal , this is how I learned to get better- its called modeling.

This news to heal seemed to be to good to be true,I knew my pain was real
I just had to learn to Model others that had success.

What did they do? How did they do it? What were there outcomes?


Modeling is essentially a process of "sharing ideas." The
ability to model effectively opens the door to many possibilities
that have previously been unavailable to humankind. In
addition to providing a methodology which can be used to
make ideas more explicit and easier to communicate, modeling
can transform the way we view and perceive one another.

If we see someone who does something better than ourselves
for example, instead of looking at that person and
feeling inadequate, jealous, or suspicious, we can go out and
model how they do what they do.
Then, we too can have the capability that the other person possesses.
Rather than take something away from that person, both we and the other
person are able to benefit: we by acquiring a new capability,
and the other person, by having better understanding and
conscious competence with respect to his or her skills.
Many others also can benefit as a result of having access to a
valuable capability that has been modeled.
There is an old adage which states that "if you give a
person a fish, you have fed him for a day; but if you teach a
person how to fish, you have fed him for the rest of his life."
The value of helping someone to 'model' an effective fisherman
would be that it would involve (a) helping that person to
get his or her fish for the day, and in doing so, (b) teaching
the person how to fish - a skill that will last the person the
rest of his or her life.

Robert Dilts from the book "Modeling" The introduction