Ratner

Can anyone explain how to do dan ratners 3 columns? Or are willing to do this with me?

 

I think you best get in touch with him he does a YouTube Q&A CHAT Thursday’s 6-7 EST . also has a website and you can email. I go to his groups.

 

You can also purchase his columns workbook from his website.

 

Thanks he is confusing and we'll expensive!

 

Four months ago on YouTube Ratner replied to someone's comment underneath one of his videos in which advised that he has a book coming out this December. Hopefully, if it materialises, that might simplify his 3 columns method for you.

 

I wish this was a simple method to all of this

 

I have watched many of his videos, and he has just tried to rebrand what others do, because he sells a product. That doesn’t mean his methods don’t work for some, and that he has not been generous with his free content and advice, but there are other methods and there are completely free methods. Being confused about choosing a method is a TMS trap, and I believe it’s part of a perfectionistic personality.
One of the best things my TMS coach said to me was choose a method and follow it. Beginning to end. Put your heart into it, and stick with your choice. Making that choice is the first step to reclaiming your personal power from the physical and mental symptoms. I choose to do the SEP and found it overwhelming at first, but stuck to it. Then I did the Recovery Program.. I was having troubles being really vulnerable -anxiety was all encompassing.
After a break I went back to the SEP and did it slowly, doing a day’s lessons in two days to absorb it and using the last prompt (things to think about) as the 2nd day journaling prompt. When I would get stuck or feel unsupported, I did searches on this forum and found incredible amounts of great information from posts of years past.

Just make the choice and do it.

 

I second all of @Cactusflower's advice above.

I've not tried the Ratner method, so it might be the quick, simple silver bullet that I gather from your postings on these forums you are seemingly continuing to search for... but I'm afraid I very much doubt it. Ratner's videos on YouTube go back to over 4 years ago, so I surmise that if his method were miraculously quick, simple and easy etc., then someone by now would have posted on these forums raving about it, saying how wonderful it is and that we all should try it because it's like waving a magic wand. His method may be good and helpful, but with TMS, with whatever method you choose to use, the reality check is that you have to put the work in. It's been said before on these forums: "the only way out is through".

 

I have been doing the work however anxiety is ramping up snd new symptoms popping up on top of old symptoms.
I had started with a therapist too who has now had to stop seeing me because of a family emergency and left me to it. Which in itself is stressful

 

So, start making arrangements to get another therapist. And for your anxiety read or better still imo listen to some Claire Weekes, regularly do some slow breathing, and I strongly suggest getting this book and regularly, throughout the day, doing the self-soothing methods in it; they are very simple, easy, quick and effective (if you get the Kindle version you can start doing them today) https://www.amazon.com/101-Ways-Find-Calm-soothe/dp/1991006039/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2KYGLKSDCUY8M&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.nQvKVY3J7E1HyxdewtJZ0TQ9GN5E0y_-KZx1ZzhXCVLRkcgdXhw1ojpCSXEz6xCRza2T8h2qZfmvwxTX8SzNap_ZdbcjRb-LaCtouG2fbJ2fnlno5VU3bpa0yt3pIxPEXTiHJ4WJcRUtG4GB8acvDtsSQIP2TZLVLAll77rAtfrVTlk_wSMlKja2OyzTMG7lExjqsRc2c0xwmLV7tAhbJ9o1BgylStZvIYOSEZWRyOg.OyPleMADh4sQ73g0wn1wgGgAxGt-apthZ2juhFucYMo&dib_tag=se&keywords=101+ways+to+find+calm&qid=1731254664&sprefix=101+ways+to+find+calm,aps,185&sr=8-1

 

Struggling to find a therpaist that does therapy and understands mind body at the same time.

Is an uptick in anxiety a good thing?

 

Anxiety can be part of an 'extinction burst'. Whatever the reason for an uptick, your job is to work on it (for which I have already given my suggestions above).

 

Thanks

 

If you read my post again, you’ll notice where I mention anxiety. I lost 40lbs, cried all the time, depressed, increased symptoms.. but this forum assured me that I could get through it. I tried a purely somatic approach with a TMS coach, and one of Alan Gordon’s therapists. Neither could help me with the anxiety until Claire Weekes and an EMDR therapist who didn’t believe in Sarno but did believe my pain was not physical. I still have a level of anxiety but now I can see it for what it is and I learned not to worry or freak out about the anxiety. I am several years into this journey and now just visit with my current TMS/life coach twice a year or so. Keep giving it time. You need to drop the desperation and learn to trust in yourself. You can do this. It will get better.