Remembering the mantras

Looking for some advice here:

I have come a long way since I started the Structured Program on the wiki and am now working with Dr. Schubiner's book "Unlearn Your Pain". I see this road I've traveled and how I got here. I have good days. I have really bad days too. They are about 50/50 right now.

For example, I went into the attic of our shop to fix a broken window. I haven't been up there in years (found an old bong from some old rogue employee while I was there) because I'm tall and can't stand up straight in the attic. But I scrambled around, fixed the window, and returned to the main shop to help with a clean up day we had organized. I did a lot of physical work that day andI felt pretty good, sore, but pretty good overall. But I tend to forget the mantras. I have one that doesn't seem to work very well.

The work I'm doing is fantastic. I hurt almost every day though since I've digging deep. I have bad days where I just want to throw in the towel. Hard to focus on me with a lot of stress at my heals. But the message is working ever so slowly.

Anyone have a quick little reminder I could tell myself? There is so much to "unlearn" that I sometimes feel overwhelmed by the work. But I think that submerging myself - is the best way for me to get through this. And I'm not going fast But I want to have a short, meaningful reminder each day.

So,Those of you who Succeeded: I can't be the only one with an overwhelming life. I'd love some suggestions for reminders, other than "I have TMS - there is nothing wrong with my body". Because I'm finding my body begs to differ.

BG

Just realized that now - my whole body hurts, rather than the stabbing pain in the lower left of my back - this could be GOOD news!

 

Thanks Jan:

Yes: I have the "full meal deal" - an anxiety disorder to go along with the pain issues. I've got some great "tricks" for dealing with my anxiety, but truth be told, I could always use more. This book you mentioned sounds really good. I read a book on anxiety "Dancing with Fear" that was really good, but like a lot of books - convince you have it but offer no suggestions on how to rid yourself of it. The book you mentioned sounds different.

I will try and "float" through the pain. It's pretty much here all the time, but I don't notice it as much because it's changing. I'm learning to "speak my truth" - which helps tremendously, and also to be kind to myself. I can really go at myself like no other!

I'll look for the book. I have two weeks left on the "Unlearn Your Pain" program - and unfortunately have little spare time for reading. But I totally agree (and feel better) about your statement that those who simply read the book and are better don't have anxiety issues. I believe we're predisposed to anxiety but until I found Dr. Sarno and his theories, never thought I could get it out of my life. And my (former) therapist looked dumbfounded when I announced I wanted to CURE my anxiety.

This work isn't easy. But what keeps me going is knowing someday I will walk free of pain, and free of anxiety.

BG

 

Well heck - Yes I have anxiety issues, but don't really know how much they play into my pain issues. I just have a lot of worry right now. But there is a line I won't cross. Maybe I'll get up the nerve to cross it. (code....BG code.....) - lol

 

I read and worked my way through Unlearn Your Pain last year. It was quite amazing to me that when I would pick up my pencil to write some of the exercises, my hand would not cooperate...it refused to hold the pencil properly. Hence some of my writing is more like scrawling. I told my hand, out loud!, to knock it off. That I had work to do and I needed the use of my hand.
I still have bouts of pain these days, but it is easier to figure out what is triggering it and thus deal with it.
Be sure to listen to the meditation CD included in the book...I still listen to it quite often.
Keep working. I have looked back at the things I wrote (some are almost illegible due to my hand refusing to work) and can see from reading what I wrote that I cleared a lot of "stuff" that caused me pain for years and years.
Best wishes. KL

 

Obsession is a huge part of my problems. 10 years ago I had panic disorder and worse than the panic itself was the constant obsession with when the next panic attack would be. When I started to get chronic headaches, the fear of when the next headache would be, how bad it would be, etc. became the new obsession.
I have Claire Weeke's books and they're good. I also like the Panic & Anxiety Workbook. I find that with both pain and anxiety the key is breaking the cycle and distracting yourself with something else--journaling, meditating, reading, watching tv, anything. When pain and/or anxiety get past a certain level I find it becomes really hard to distract myself. It's easier with anxiety because I've had it so long that I know pretty well how to manage it. Pain still has more of a hold on me--I've only been working on TMS for 2 months so this is very new.
I hope you are feeling better now, BeachGirl!

 

Perhaps you could give me some suggestions? I am "stuck" on Part 3. Seems confusing and I had a small (well big) crash in the middle so I'm taking a break. I am kind of lost between my "child self" and the "grown-up" (and I use the term loosely) self. There's just SO much. So it was suggested to me that I start over with a list of stressors and anger/rage and write from there. I didn't listen to all the meditations, I didn't have time. Is there one you like better or would suggest over another?I've been getting up at 5:00 am to work on this and still got overwhelmed.

I plan on regrouping and starting Part 3 again. But it was so overwhelming, it became like my life. Perfect me was trying to do the writing parts and then go back to Parts One and Two? TOO MUCH! I lost it.

This is all to say as well, there is an abundance of stress in my life right now and I'm not sure how to resolve it. So I am sleeping a lot for a few days, trying to be kind to myself and plan to start again. But I just felt Part 3 was over my head.

I'm up for any suggestions from people who have done Part 3 of Unlearn Your Pain.

BG

 

I hear you Veronica! I too am only two months into this. I've relied on meds for anxiety and pain since my life is literally lived on a dead run. Day in and out. But since The Big Crash I just spoke of, ^ I've been sleeping a lot in the afternoons - and Netflix has become my friend. I love movies. I love to read. But I never do this consistently because there is literally no time. Until I crash. Then I can't do anything else.

I feel like my head is spinning sometimes. Do I work on my anxiety? Do I work on my pain? Oh look! Here comes a panic attack! Oh look! My back is raging. I think I need to get a new start. A couple days ago, I thought I might quit. But I know now, I'm not giving up since there IS a tiny bit of improvement. Have some ideas and a lot more knowledge than I did two months ago.

And some pretty awesome support here. Thank you!

BG

 

Well, there's a lot of writing, - you have a choice of three parts per day (I set it down a bit ago) and then you review parts one and two and a meditation. This is assuming you are moving right along, which I'm not.

What I've decided is working best, is free-writing in the mornings and listening to one of the meditations each day. This is working for now. It's so incredibly hard to work with "past issues" and then turn around and face a day of a lot of stress. I had to slow down, remind myself this isn't a race, and regroup. I'm trying to spend more time outdoors too. This is the BEST thing for me at the moment. So "in the moment"I'm trying to reflect on all I've learned, and will return to the book when I'm feeling less stressed. Or when I feel more able. I simply got overwhelmed.

This IS work. But I've learned so much, doing the Structured Program on the Wiki, and as far as I got with Dr. Schubiner's book, that I think a reflection time is in order - for me at least.

And spending more time with my dog.

BG

Oh and saw my doctor today. He's never heard of Dr. Sarno and I noted he didn't even bother to write his name down. Has absolutely no intention of looking at what I'm trying to do. Ugh.

 

It's not working dang it. I would love to show a photo of my best bud!

 

Hey thanks! So cool to see my boy! He's 8 and we've been wandering the beach together since he was 7 weeks old. My best beach partner. Needs to have his winter coat trimmed a bit (out door dog - doesn't live with me). But we're best friends. And he's a lot of fun to have along. If I can figure out how, I'll post a few more photos of some of our wilder adventures. Thanks for the tips Forest! On the photograph and also the great reminder on TMS.

BG

 

I would have NEVER figured that out. I use flickr for another site, and always grab the code, but it didn't work here. THANK YOU!!!!

 

Man's (or woman's) best friend! Cool.