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I also found that out ....first with a couple of Gfs and later, virtually everybody in my life. In fact, that little dealio is probably at the root of most people's TMS..the disconnect between how people ARE and how we WISH they could be.

I WISH my family got along.
I WISH my co-workers didn't goof off and pull no-shows
I WISH I lived in a place where the Good ultimately wins out

Like @BloodMoon I learned this problem was really Me in the course of a painful relationship..but it really goes down to the core of my romantic notions of how stuff OUGHT to be. I had to be disabused via reading a lot of that 'redpill' literature.
The GOOD news is..all of that good feeling? It came from Inside of ME, not emanating from the other people...
The BAD news is, I have become a little cynical and tend to interact with the 'outside' world less and less.

Besides it being a monster TMS provocateur, it left me depressed. There is Magic in the world, it just isn't coming from everybody.
J.K. Rowling nailed it...most people are Muggles and are content to live in a 2d, TV and telephone world that is largely a hall of mirrors with no real life anywhere to be found.
Most people's fears start with 'what if I die and ....."
when it's really "What if you LIVED and ...."