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dlane2530 replied to the thread On not offering to help.
100%. Such compassion but also practical help and tough love as needed. I'm so grateful!
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dlane2530 liked JanAtheCPA's post in the thread On not offering to help.
Just look at this amazing support group, you all are awesome ❤️
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dlane2530 liked Diana-M's post in the thread On not offering to help.
I used to feel the same way, Dixie, that certain work just belonged to me. And I’d even turn down help. I think I learned it from my...
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dlane2530 liked Sita's post in the thread On not offering to help.
This discussion is helping me too. My husband offers to help and I say no. Out of my perfectionism...I suppose. I do it better and...
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dlane2530 replied to the thread On not offering to help.
You put this so well, Diana! "Just because we can, does that make it right?"
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dlane2530 replied to the thread On not offering to help.
@BloodMoon I'm grateful for what you said; it's making me reflect further on how I think of myself vs. him and our roles and I do need...
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dlane2530 replied to the thread On not offering to help.
Yes, that's a good point. And I will say that sometimes I stand in the way. Like he will offer and I will say no out of some twisted...
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dlane2530 liked BloodMoon's post in the thread On not offering to help.
I appreciated that, but you were saying in a previous thread that driving everybody around, to include taking your husband to work and...
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dlane2530 replied to the thread On not offering to help.
I talked with my husband and I think we'll be pausing some of the kid appointments. It's just not sustainable. And I'm not convinced...
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dlane2530 replied to the thread On not offering to help.
(A good point -- but it's not, exactly. It's that one of us has to have the car -- either him at work or me at work-from-home -- and if...
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dlane2530 liked Sita's post in the thread On not offering to help.
Yes! Regarding the ridiculous demands from others, I had a great psychotherapist one time and she said: "Think about it like this....
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dlane2530 liked Cactusflower's post in the thread On not offering to help.
"The problem with us TMSers is we can crawl a thousand miles on broken glass and not complain." YEP!!!! And when you do - I mean not...
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dlane2530 liked Diana-M's post in the thread On not offering to help.
Time is a resource. As a mother, you have to allocate the use of this time. Taking care of yourself IS taking care of your kids. So,...
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