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    On not offering to help

    100%. Such compassion but also practical help and tough love as needed. I'm so grateful!
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 8, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    On not offering to help

    You put this so well, Diana! "Just because we can, does that make it right?"
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 8, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    On not offering to help

    @BloodMoon I'm grateful for what you said; it's making me reflect further on how I think of myself vs. him and our roles and I do need to reflect...
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 8, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    On not offering to help

    Yes, that's a good point. And I will say that sometimes I stand in the way. Like he will offer and I will say no out of some twisted sense of "I'm...
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 8, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    On not offering to help

    I talked with my husband and I think we'll be pausing some of the kid appointments. It's just not sustainable. And I'm not convinced it's helping,...
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 8, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    On not offering to help

    (A good point -- but it's not, exactly. It's that one of us has to have the car -- either him at work or me at work-from-home -- and if he has it,...
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 8, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    On not offering to help

    Brilliant. Yes.
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 8, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    On not offering to help

    You are so right!!!
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 8, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    On not offering to help

    Thank you, @Diana-M and @Sita . You're so right that my own choices and self-worth need to be detached from the choices and opinions of others. I...
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 8, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    On not offering to help

    I should add that my annoyance is compounded by a friend calling to ask if her grandkids could come feed our chickens, but not at any of the few...
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 8, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    On not offering to help

    I used to think that the way to get help when you need it was to offer help when others need it. Turns out that's not true. I've learned this...
    Thread by: dlane2530, Sep 8, 2025, 22 replies, in forum: Support Subforum
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    Took a trip; it brought me down

    Also, Diana -- it *didn't* kill you. I have no doubt it was exhausting and very painful and very scary and made you feel pretty low about your...
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 7, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    Took a trip; it brought me down

    Diana, good for you for taking this trip. You have had so much success with developing optimism and positivity -- this little low is just a blip!...
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 7, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    Day 1 Acceptance

    The anger is real and it's very good for you to feel and process it. I also understand the feeling of having wasted years. But -- TMS is...
    Post by: dlane2530, Sep 6, 2025 in forum: Structured Educational Program