This has all been so helpful for me! I was having trouble figuring out what I must be repressing so much anger & rage about, but fear, pressure and criticism I totally get. I'm wondering if anyone else can identify with me as feeling like this is just the way they are and have always been without having experienced any great trauma? I've always been anxious/a worrier/a planner/a perfectionist. But my parents were supportive without pushing, no abuse, no violence, no depression, nothing I can identify other than that my mother is also anxious. I once remember erasing my school work until I made a hole in the paper because I wanted my writing to be perfect! So this makes me feel worse that I have nothing to attribute it to but my very personality. How do I change that?? Edited to add that I'm not saying that I believe it's better to have experienced trauma, just that it's confusing to me since I haven't. In no way do I want to minimize traumatic experiences other readers may have had.