Talking to your inner child and pain relief

A recent video of Dan showed how to help kids with TMS. He said parents could be calm with the symptoms and create a safety for the kids. Kids feel safe and symptoms would go away. Often times, adults need this kind of safety as well. Luckier ones would have other loving and caring adults help create such safety (allowing the inner children to express, to be seen, to be accepted and to be comforted), or are able to place themselves in situations that would generate less inner tensions. However, modern day humans are mostly near capacity for such emotional luggage from their own not to mention others. So it is not easy for one always be the adult for their own inner child. I guess any awareness would be helpful since no humans or no situations are perfect.