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Hi Ewok,

I think it's important to accept without judgement all emotions and thoughts that arise. Labeling some as undesirable or unacceptable is what leads to repression. Acknowledging that I am a multi-faceted, imperfect being has been an important part of my recovery. Having the thoughts and emotions (like jealousy) arise, doesn't mean that we express them. The key is to be aware of our thoughts and emotions, so that we then have the space to choose our response, rather than speaking and acting on auto-pilot. That awareness, that space for choice, then allows me to choose to see the situation in a more compassionate and loving way. Then my words and actions follow. But I never beat myself up for first having a petty or unkind thought, or for those times when I act before I have the awareness to change my response. I forgive myself and try to learn from the experience. This has been something that has taken a lot of practice, and I still falter at times. A work in progress, but then, what else is life for than to try to become more loving and compassionate to all, including ourselves.

I hope this answers your question.