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Wrong question, patrick! That's your obsessive fearful brain looking for reassurance that will mesh with your experience, which is always an exercise in futility, because your brain will reject any answer you receive as not relevant. In the meantime you're just spinning your wheels, although you think you're accomplishing something by asking questions like this.

@Sita has already provided an excellent answer, which is "living life as if I'm perfectly fine". Living as if we are perfectly fine is obviously far better than wherever we were at before we figured this out, but I get that this is a bit subtle. The main problem is that "Better" along with "Success" are highly individual and subjective. There is no way to measure them, which means (and I realize that I'm repeating myself) that even if you get an answer, your obsessive and fearful brain will not accept the answer as relevant for you. I've seen this so many times over the last 11+ years, that I know this is what your brain will do (and has done, repeatedly) because that is where you are at. Your road is much harder than that of many others, but I still believe that you could achieve some level of recovery, which is always better than zero level of recovery, right?

I came to the realization that I was born with anxiety and had it for all of my 60 years "before Sarno" and that I will always be battling it and TMS symptoms to some extent. But that's okay, because, with the exception of not talking about details (maybe you've noticed, haha) I do the exact same things that @Sita does: mindfulness/breathing (in place of meditation), living in the present, working out, healthy diet, and, most importantly, giving no traction to symptoms and living my life as if I'm perfectly fine - because I am, even on days when I'm not feeling it. I also have to accept and give aging its due - even so I'm in waaaay better mental and physical shape at 72 than I was at 60. Heck, three years ago I developed stress-based RA at age 69, but thanks to more exercise, less sugar, and, most importantly, eliminating some significant stressors, it's so well under control (based on my last four quarterly blood tests as well as my subjective experience) that I'm going to ask my rheumatologist if we can reduce my methotrexate dose (which was never at the max)(4/12 update, he said yes). I attribute this to my TMS knowledge and practices, combined with the ability to eliminate the main stressors even though the goodist in me did not want to, because I had to acknowledge the detrimental effect they were having, and continued to have after the diagnosis.