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Every time your symptoms are triggered is the chance to do the work to soften the trigger by feeling your emotions.
Basically you are a giant bucket of stress and your bucket is full. Every chance you get to stick a hole in the bottom of that bucket and drain off a little of it is doing the good work.

Your mind on TMS wants you to live in a bubble of glass. Safe from any stress, surrounded only by happy thoughts. That’s not reality. It fools you into thinking you are so fragile you can’t handle a sideways glance or wrong word from someone. Sure it’s hard, but what is truly bugging you?
Fear.
What really frightens you is that feeling of free these two words (two letters) sf bring to you. You thought fear, you began to feel the fear and your first instincts are to run and then to hide. Don’t feel the fear by staying here (feeling anger was cool with you, good work), and hide from your family so they don’t sense the fear.
What would have happened if you’d turned off your meeting and sat with yourself, and just let it all flow through you? Feel the fear, cold sweat, the distastefulness and discomfort of it all for 2-3 minutes. Just sit and let it pass. Let the fear thoughts float on by but don’t follow them. No stories or meaning attached to them…
Then go wash your face and get a drink of water or whatever to give yourself a moment before being with the family. Even taking a second to do a visualization - think of a joyful time with the family - a birth, a child’s first step etc. something to help you step away from the stress for a second.

Helmut talks about doing visualizations to get a “dopamine hit” and that this really helped him with the anxiety. It’s worth a try to experiment. He says it took a few months for his brain to catch on, but then he felt much better.
Some triggers might never go away, but what softens is your ability to feel the fear and be ok with it. Sure it will affect the nervous system and your emotions but then it will level out again fairly quickly.
Perhaps you might think about what is truly supportive and empowering to you. Is the Dystonia group really being supportive, or would joining a TMS support group be a better fit for you right now? What do you really need?