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    Designer with ADHD and unbridled perfectionism - top tips for counteracting negative thoughts

    @Smemflynn “For instance I get very irritatated by perceived weakness or softness as well as vulnerability.” I absolutely relate to this....
    Post by: Cactusflower, Aug 6, 2025 at 10:02 AM in forum: General Discussion Subforum
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    Day 5 Emotional day

    Good job Hedger. You are open to being vulnerable. Even if you don't cry, you FELT the emotion, which is a success. Simply allowing yourself to...
    Post by: Cactusflower, Aug 5, 2025 at 4:18 PM in forum: Structured Educational Program
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    Struggling to Stay on Track with the TMS Approach

    "While biking home from training I got hit by a car (was fine but my bike got messed up), I kinda turned into a rabid animal screaming at the...
    Post by: Cactusflower, Aug 5, 2025 at 3:26 PM in forum: General Discussion Subforum
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    Designer with ADHD and unbridled perfectionism - top tips for counteracting negative thoughts

    “I've started the SEP and am going to do Alan Gordons program in tandem - I've read most of the shorter recovery program overview of his and I...
    Post by: Cactusflower, Aug 5, 2025 at 11:09 AM in forum: General Discussion Subforum
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    Mindful Gardner: What are the pillars?

    Ending this discussion here.
    Thread by: Cactusflower, Aug 4, 2025 at 4:46 PM, 24 replies, in forum: General Discussion Subforum
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    Struggling to Stay on Track with the TMS Approach

    You don't need to consistently believe - it's a lot of self pressure to think you are "wrong" or not "good enough" to be successful when you have...
    Post by: Cactusflower, Aug 4, 2025 at 4:15 PM in forum: General Discussion Subforum
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    I feel like there might be something fundamentally lacking in my understanding of TMS

    "Last night, I thought to myself that the key to all of this is just surrender." Oh, you already know what to do. Good for you! I think with...
    Post by: Cactusflower, Aug 3, 2025 in forum: Support Subforum
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    Why people get so angry when I mention TMS?

    I was out with a large group of friends last week, and they asked about my symptoms. One asked if I’d heard of Gabor Mate. A conversation of TMS...
    Post by: Cactusflower, Aug 3, 2025 in forum: General Discussion Subforum
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    Day 2 A weird source of anger?

    Hey @Hedger I too find myself annoyed and angry more. Welcome to feeling emotions you didn't used to let yourself feel! I think it's perfectly...
    Post by: Cactusflower, Aug 2, 2025 in forum: Structured Educational Program
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    Almost 2 years of trying to resolve intense sciatic pain using TMS

    @warren23 I have a diagnosed “abnormality” in my spine. Yes, it can sometimes cause pain and symptoms. They key is “sometimes” and doing the TMS...
    Post by: Cactusflower, Aug 1, 2025 in forum: General Discussion Subforum
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    Frustration

    “The next day, and all this week, I could hardly go up and down the steps. This scares me because I need to be able to go up the steps.” This is...
    Post by: Cactusflower, Aug 1, 2025 in forum: Structured Educational Program
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    Designer with ADHD and unbridled perfectionism - top tips for counteracting negative thoughts

    @Smemflynn There is a TMS therapist in Dubai who has an amazingly creative approach to the TMS personality. She suggests utilizing those traits...
    Post by: Cactusflower, Jul 31, 2025 in forum: General Discussion Subforum
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    Designer with ADHD and unbridled perfectionism - top tips for counteracting negative thoughts

    "I have level 11 perfectionism with a very strong fear of rejection/judgement etc. Being vulnerable is very difficult. My mum (RIP) had post-natal...
    Post by: Cactusflower, Jul 31, 2025 in forum: General Discussion Subforum
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    Advice Appreciated

    “I don't dream like other people. I mean...only rarely and there is almost always a clear, wise message in my dreams.” Me too Sita. Last one was...
    Post by: Cactusflower, Jul 30, 2025 in forum: General Discussion Subforum