inner critic

One morning, I woke up, stepped out of bed, and keeled over from agonizing pain. I was no stranger to pain, as I’d had searing pelvic pain from Interstitial Cystitis for years. This, however, was a different searing pelvic pain. I picked up the phone and called 911. Pain is a powerful...

Hi, It is often mentioned that you have to feel your emotions, but not react to them. I really struggle with this concept. How do you "not react", without repressing/ignoring the emotions? Thanks!

im not sure that i have been more self critical than normal lately which is what is asked on day 9 but i just thought id write about ways in which im self critical. I tell myself that things i get upset about are so minor compared to what other people go through so how dare i get upset. I tell...

Those of you who read my previous post know that I've felt "stuck." There are two big reasons, not wanting to face some very strong emotions, and also a level of impatience that I'm more mindful of. The other day, I was spider writing about my fears for a business I'm trying to build, and I...

Dear TMS Forum Members, I have posted this on my blog here. And have copied it here for you. I am interested in your responses. Thank you. Andy B. I want to tell you about the first wonderful, mind-blowing surprise I experienced while beginning to accept Dr. Sarno's understanding about my...

Hey there, I am a recent TMS believer and am working hard to embrace, understand and accept the mind body connection and philosophy. I am 44 and live in an extremely active community, no place or time for pain....but I suffer, mostly in my knees and IT bands...total pain in the ass for a skier...

I have something that happend in my past that I keep beating myself up for. I tend to feel a lot of shame for doing this and have trouble forgiving myself. Should I keep digging and journaling about this subject? Is there any techniques to forgiving myself for this and getting this out of my...

I came across this article the other day about silencing the inner critic by developing compassion for it. As I've stated before, this focus on self-compassion is to me at least one of the most important aspects of IFS, and what makes it so incredibly powerful. Hating the inner critic just adds...

Eckhart Tolle, the German-born Canadian spiritual teacher, tells in the following video, “Did the Universe Make a Mistake with the Ego?” that no, it is part of the human evolutionary process in discovering who we are, and through that knowledge, achieving inner peace: Tolle tells about the...

Louise Hay says that the core issue for everyone is self-hatred. I know this is true for me--that "inner bully" is pretty constant some days (today is one of those days). For me the hardest part of recovering from TMS has been learning to feel my feelings and just accept myself as I am. I know...

I have finished Alan's Recovery Program and will probably listen over and over again, because everything about it, even the sound of his voice, is *so* soothing. The reparenting bits are very helpful and I understand the subconscious anger, because I have actually had dreams where I have my...