Urination issues and TMS? Advice please.

I have the same thing going on with seeing a pelvic specialist. 2nd visit today. Not fun and symptoms are worse today after appointment. I’m hoping it will help soon but if it’s tms shouldn’t I stop going ?

 

For me the pelvic specialist with internal trigger point therapy etc. didn't really help. The only thing that really helped was to accept my emotions, accept the psychic tension I felt and to keep calm about the pain. I learned yoga stretches that are somewhat helpful, but as the reason for the pain is not physical the solution also cannot be found i physiotherapy. You say it yourself, the muscle tension is caused by stress and anxiety. The muscles will naturally relax if you have solved these problems. I found simple massages quite nice, it felt good and was not a 'medical treatment'. Hope this makes sense for you!

 

Thanks for your reply. I had some good hours this am so it reassures me its tms and I had it in many other ways before this so I will battle it. It’s the worst when I’m at home trying to relax and play with my 5 year old daughter. I’m wondering what I can read daily over and over to help with this. I can read an hour a day so want to make the best of this time.

 

Playing with your daughter must be nice! Enjoy this! I am great fan of playful therapy

 

I would consider why it's worst when you're at home playing with your daughter. I love my boys, but eventually some of the things they want to play get boring to me. And I'll feel guilty. Or that I'm not creative enough as a parent. Basically it's negative feedback I've found myself giving. Are you doing that? Parenting is a tough job even when you love it. Sometimes I will listen to motivating speeches on youtube that give positive feedback. Sounds corny but it helps.

 

It happens when I want to relax and be calm and enjoy my time with my daughter and we spend a lot of time together. I just keep reading anything I can about tms and telling my brain to cut the crap. I’ll beat it. I need some more patience though.

 

Dear Jbyard, it it quite common that when people want to relax that then pain starts or is getting worse. I had - and sometimes have - the same reaction. There are usually reasons for that. In my case I feel lonely, that I don't earned the relax time etc. Patience is really important. I had to learn to be patient with myself!

 

Patience is something I’ve never had. I’m going to read paradoxical relaxation and hopefully I can learn how to do that. I know it’s hard to learn. Having depression sure doesn’t help at all either. As I’m sure most tms sufferers have some depression wether a little or a lot. I keep going over the Alan Gordon program. Thanks for your input