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I think a lot of the psychological work, after recognizing your personality traits and how they developed and reflect the current emotional and thought patterns you have becomes mindset work.
We learn how our operating system works and how that can fuel subconscious anger (and other emotions) but begin to realize we do have power over thoughts and can also learn new habits (and drop old ones not serving us). “Get to” over all the shoulding is an excellent way to cultivate a more vibrant and creative mindset. Choosing instead of feeling the “musts” or “have to’s” within the lense of personality traits (people pleasers and goodists need to make sure they don’t fuel those fires!) is a way to instill some gratitude, and to feel our power over negativity and a glass half-full outlook. It’s also a great way to begin getting out of negative mindsets like constant anger that are just other coping mechanisms. This mindset change has been a huge game changer for me and has been what has banished (mostly) depression, apathy, lack of interest, a lot of fear, and a general feeling of the current state of the world being a huge downer.
I am privileged to have house cleaners come every few weeks. They are currently on vacation, so I “get” to do chores I don’t like.. however I have reframed this by getting to physically challenge myself and move in ways I don’t always do. It’s no longer a chore but, exercise!
There is a TMS therapist in Australia who uses some very different and unique methods of mindset work, especially dealing with personality traits, much in this same manner. I love some of her ideas. Once you discover things like perfectionistic traits and the internal struggles it can create, learn to use it to your advantage! Utilize the perfectionistic tendencies to organize your kitchen instead of trying to organize and control things you can’t. My house is looking awesomely organized and it is a positive way to use this trait.