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Question on how to reach a TMS cure
What you must recognize, and will over time, is that emotions are nothing but physical sensations in the body caused by chemical release. That's it.
Amazing, isn't it.
Many of us with TMS learned to push these physical sensations away - remember, they are emotions and we repress emotions. We simply thought that not feeling anything kept us safe, when really it was quite the opposite. It's not our fault at all, it just happened (and there are lots of theories about why, but again, while you are doing the work, it's not really all that important).
We also don't want to feel pain so badly we get totally desperate, fearful, full of anxiety, catastrophic, worry, ruminate on what we did to get here etc. however the things we think around the pain are just thoughts and they really don't much matter.
It is also amazing how much crap we think doesn't matter (which leads back to a lot of those personality traits which generate thoughts and ideas that often essentially don't matter even if we think they hold much importance).
Yes, "symptoms" can shift - however "symptoms" are not always the same as sensations and I see some people mix those up and that is where us TMS folks can back pedal.
We feel sensations and judge them as frightening etc. and then they become a symptom. I'm still at this stage and working very hard to train my brain to stop this cycle it has learned. I can feel sensations and be safe. I can feel a sensation, react and judge it as unsafe and then change my mind and teach my mind and body that the soft and kind response change of mind to safety is absolutely safe - I don't have to be stuck in a symptom (flair up, imperative or whatever anyone wants to call it).
One of the most important this you can do is notice: just for seconds, notice the changes you are making and congratulate yourself on the change - the way you responded softly and kindly to yourself, redirected a destructive thought pattern to yourself or others, felt even the inkling of emotions within the body over reacting to these things and congratulate yourself. Approach learning all of these skills with curiosity and wonder and it will absolutely change your mindset.